Why Women Leave Men

[bomber]

Why do women seem to be more concerned about their marriages than men?
They buy most of the books on marriage to try to improve them and initiate most marriage counseling. They often complain about their marriages to their closest friends and sometimes to anyone who will listen. And they also file for divorce twice as often as men. Why do women seem so dissatisfied with marriage? What do they want from their husbands? What bothers them so much about marriage that most are willing to risk their families' future to escape it?

Do women expect too much of their husbands or are men doing less for their wives than they should? I dont think wives expect too much of their husbands, I think when they understand and respond to their wives' frustration, the complaining ends and a terrific marriage begins.

What's wives aren't expecting 'more' effort from them. Instead, they expect efforts in a 'different direction'. It isn't more difficult to please women these days; it simply requires a change in priority of effort.

What are women looking for in men?
They want a 'soul mate', someone they trust that's there for them when they have a problem, who takes their feelings into account when decisions are being made. Someone to whom they feel emotionally connected."

Who agrees?

[kim]

I think because women see it in a different way to men. Women are constantly working hard at making it work & keeping it good. In my opinion I don't think anyone should ever suggest counseling unless their marriages are on the rocks & they want to save it. Not against counseling at all, but I do believe there are other ways to do things to improve, unless it is a serious matter, then counseling should be the go for sure.

Women LOVE to talk, gossip & all that. They can't communicate to hubby so they'll go to their closest friend. I personally don't see a problem with this as it help many probs to be solved by talking to someone. Women also often get the feeling & impression that hubby isn't interested in what they have to complain about or talk about. (Being female) talking from experience, we often feel as though we're 'naggers' & have no choice but to go to friends cos hubby doesn't want to know. That's the impression we get from guys. So much goes through 1 ear & out the other. Men say they listen, but often they don't! My man for example LOL I am constantly repeating myself to him about what shifts I'm doing so he knows when & when not to expect me. It often comes back with a 'you didn't tell me you're working tonight!'. This is just 1 very small example & I have learnt to adjust to it very simply. We have a white board for shopping, I now write what I want him to know about things like this. I also tell him, if he doesn't listen the first time & doesn't read what I wrote, I don't care....I NEVER let something like this stress me. As far as I'm concerned, it's not worth the stress in the end.

I don't really know why some women seem dissatisfied in marriage. To back up a minority, we're not all like this. Some of us get along beautifully in our relationships & have so few minor probs that it's not worth the worry. I really think in the end, some have to do with wanting & expecting too much, some to do with not being in the right relationship that they have to complain too much & some think a little too high & mighty of themselves that they think they can do what they like. PERSONALITIES.

Do women expect too much of their husbands or are men doing less for their wives than they should?

I think it is defiantly a bit of both. There aren't 2 relationships the same & in the end there needs to be a bit of give & take from both ends, not just one.

I get along really well with my boyfriend. No I'm not married nor am I pushing for it. What ever happens, happens. We're both very well at communicating, of course we have problems, no relationship is perfect, but we sort them out pretty quick. We see many friends in the boat as what you've described & are thankful we're pretty much on the wave length so this doesn't happen.

We both winge from time to time to friends & we both know the other does it......it doesn't mean anything bad.